As parents of newlyweds, there are many responsibilities that need to be taken on. People often rely on parents to help choose the perfect wedding dress, host bridal showers, provide advice on key decorations and food decisions, and deal with relatives who constantly ask questions. I believe that every opportunity should be taken to listen to your child's voice, accompany them, and avoid creating problems that make you become the problem. In other words, parents should not put too much pressure on their children, as planning a wedding is already difficult enough.
1.Do not make any changes to the wedding ceremony that your children like: To be honest, I remember a bride who was very upset when her mother suddenly barged in and changed the color scheme of the wedding banquet. She said, "It took her many years to overcome this." Although this is an extreme example, if you have not obtained the consent of your daughter and her fiance, please do not try to modify any details - from the taste of the cake to the color of the chair covers.
2.Avoid arguments and conflicts: A wedding is a celebration and should be filled with joy and unity. Do not cause arguments and conflicts at your children's wedding, as this will bring negative effects to the entire atmosphere. Try to maintain harmony and calmness, and create a beautiful memory for them.
3.Do not insert your own wishes: Before the wedding, your children will definitely come to ask you questions about some details of the wedding scene. Make sure to provide some effective suggestions, but do not overextend your own ideas, and do not privately contact the wedding planner to change the flow of the wedding.
4.Do not plan a wedding that you like, instead of what your children like: Perhaps you have always hoped to exchange wedding vows outdoors, or have enough cash to cover your venue completely with flowers and silk. But the key is to understand that this is not your main day. One mistake that mothers easily make is to use their children to fulfill their own wedding wishes. I suggest not to do that. You have already had your moment, this is their moment. Let it be.
5.Do not express emotions excessively: Of course, a wedding is an emotional moment, but do not express emotions excessively, to the point of making the newlyweds feel embarrassed. Try to remain calm and composed, provide support and blessings for them, rather than being overly emotional.
6.Do not fight with your future in-laws: No, you don't have to be best friends. But getting along harmoniously with your daughter's future in-laws is key. It is important to recognize that disputes that may arise in the future will not happen immediately. Follow the three core values of etiquette: respect, honesty, and consideration. Respect individuals. Be honest with people and consider their feelings.
7.Do not try to monopolize attention: A wedding is a special moment for the newlyweds, do not try to monopolize all the attention. Although as middle-aged people, your body management is very perfect, but at the wedding, they should be the focus. Respect their glorious moment and be proud of them. Although you don't need to dress up like a housewife, you still need to dress appropriately and not let your own shine overshadow the newlyweds.
8.Do not turn the wedding scene into your social dance party: Although you have the absolute right to invite your closest people to participate in the event, do not use this opportunity to show off to the entire social circle. Please do not force your children to invite relatives and friends that you think should be invited. A wedding is a special moment for the newlyweds, and they should have the right to decide who to invite. Respect their choices and support their decisions.
As parents, at your children's wedding, you should try to avoid doing things that may cause unnecessary trouble for them. Respect their decisions, support their choices, and create a beautiful and unforgettable wedding experience for them. Let us be their strong backing, and add joy and blessings to their wedding.